To truly attract the women of your dreams, it is important that you are the right sort of man. There is nothing more attractive to women than finding a man who truly embodies the best masculine ideals. A man who is completely secure in the knowledge that he is product of an evolutionary process that has placed his species at the absolute pinnacle of the food chain will naturally draw women to him. Put another way, women love men who are men.
Luckily for most of us, this has less to do with genetics than it does to do with the way a man both carries himself and behaves. We can’t all be perfect physical specimens, but we can all still be the sort of man to whom women are attracted. Again, luckily for the majority of men, these behaviors can be learned and practiced by anyone willing to put in the time.
Be Confident
There is nothing women find sexier than a coolly self-assured man. It sends the subconscious message that this man is capable of successfully taking on the world and whatever challenges it may send his way. By extension, it also sends the message that whoever is with this man will be equally successful.
If a woman gets the initial first impression that you are secure with yourself and who you are, then she will naturally form other opinions of you; that you are honest, strong, intelligent, funny, and a plethora of other positive qualities. She will form these opinions even before she has gotten an opportunity to know more about you on a personal level. Actually, the fact that she has these opinions will make her want to get to know you better.
There’s a psychological term for this, the “Halo Effect”. Politicians and movie stars are prime examples of people who use the Halo Effect to great success. Politicians never say anything that has any real depth or substance, but they try hard to appear warm, friendly, patriotic, and intelligent, because if we accept that impression, we will subconsciously make the leap that they are also honest, intelligent, and competent enough to govern our country.
We all have our favorite movie stars who we love and who we believe must be wonderful to be around in real life. We make these assumptions even though we usually are only basing them on the characters and roles we have seen the actors play in their films. Hollywood makes billions of dollars off of our impressions, as do advertisers and marketers.
In one study, researchers gave participants photographs of unattractive and attractive people and then asked the participants to rate the personalities of the people in the pictures:
Attractive people were ascribed more favorable traits than unattractive people… this merely constitutes a demonstration that people’s implicit personality theories include the assumption that physically attractive people have more attractive personalities.
Be Competent
Part of truly being a man means possessing a wide variety of skills that allows him to be the master of any situation in which he finds himself. A man should be comfortable enough in the usage of these skills that he can act without hesitation when called upon. In other words, men who are men are able to do those things which need doing. Not only will women react to the confidence that this man justifiably exudes, she will also be drawn to him on an instinctive level, harkening back to the days when men were protectors and providers.
This is not license to act is a sexist or churlish manner. On the contrary, it is the obligation, shared by all men, to be ready to step up and handle any needs or emergencies that arise. These types of skills can and should be learned by all men who to maximize their attractiveness to women.
In the science fiction classic, Time Enough for Love, Robert A. Heinlein wrote this on the subject:
A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.
Be Courteous
One of the most powerfully attractive qualities a man can possess is simple good manners. In today’s selfish, pushy society, the man who cares enough to extend common courtesy to those around him is a rare commodity, indeed. Even the man who only performs the basics, such as holding open doors or pulling out chairs, will stand out from the throngs of men who just couldn’t be bothered to make the effort.
Part of the reason why courtesy in a man is so important to women is the fact that it clearly demonstrates two other positive qualities. Good manners indicate both compassion and strength. Compassion, because it shows you respect and value other people. Strength, because it indicates the ability to adhere to worthy rules of behavior, even when other people are indifferently flouting those same rules. This is what the famous essayist, Ralph Waldo Emerson, had this to say about courtesy:
A beautiful form is better than a beautiful face; a beautiful behavior is better than a beautiful form; it gives a higher pleasure than statues or pictures; it is the finest of the fine arts.
So if you think about it, it is a pretty straightforward equation. Confidence plus competence, multiplied by courtesy equals a total man that the best women will find irresistible. It remains up to you to carefully cultivate those qualities if you want to improve your dating life and start having success with the sort of women that you have always wanted to meet. Once these qualities have become part of your personality, they will do more than give you the time of day; they will be asking you the time.
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