When it comes to wooing your woman, whether you’ve been with her for years, or it’s a completely new relationship, it can be tricky to get her in the mood without sending the wrong signals. You don’t just want to come right out and ask for it; for one thing that’s a real kick to the pride, but for another, women generally want it more when they’re not being formally asked to perform. You don’t necessarily have to make her think that it’s her idea, but getting her into a mind space where she’s feeling more frisky and sexual free is certainly a good way to start. For 5 tips on ways that you can get the woman in your life into the mood for a romantic rendezvous, read on below.
Cool Her Insecurities
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Men hate it, but women have them in abundance, an overflowing supply of physical insecurities whether they’re warranted or not. Unfortunately if your girl is feeling overly fat due to an upcoming menstrual cycle, or is having what she calls a bad hair day and what you’d probably never notice as anything out of the ordinary going on with her head, she’s not likely to be feeling very sexy. The first thing you’ve got to do if you want your wife or girlfriend to be more inclined to want a roll in the sheets is to cure those insecurities by letting her know that the things that bother her don’t bother you. The Wing Girl Method writes:
The more you help make a women feel accepted, attractive and safe during any sexual act, the more free she will be.
This doesn’t necessarily mean you should come right out and tell her that you don’t mind that cute little tummy bulge she’s rocking right now, but rather express how particularly slim she’s been looking lately, or run your fingers through her hair and comment on how soft it feels. Whatever area of her body she’s been feeling down about, find something genuinely comforting to say and let her know you love the way she looks.
Find Your “Throw Down”
Throw Down is pretty much exactly what it sounds like; the ability to physically throw down your leading lady. Of course this doesn’t mean you should become physically violent or do anything that might hurt her, but simply being able to maneuver her body, lift her against a wall, or toss her into bed is a good place to start. Now a days many women come across as wanting to be strong and independent, but when it comes right down to it they still want to be feminine and fragile from time to time as well, and what better way to demonstrate her femininity than by exercising your masculine physique. Of course you shouldn’t exert any kind of force on her, especially if she’s expressing a negative attitude toward the possibility of foreplay, but if she’s open to the idea then giving her a little male dominance can often get a girl in the mood for fun.
Shower and Spritz
Honestly, as time goes on the more you get to know your partner the less likely you are to make an effort at looking and smelling nice, but if you want better results in the bedroom you’d better stop being lazy and start trying harder. It’s been proven through different studies that women have a stronger sense of smell than men do, particularly when it comes to getting frisky. Allison Kendall of match.ca says:
Simply put: if a woman doesn’t like the way a man smells, it’s often a deal-breaker – whether she consciously realizes it or not.
This is a good reason to scrub up, slap on some deodorant, get some gel in your hair, and put on a spritz of something light and musky. Don’t wear too much cologne though, or you’ll pretty much result in the same outcome of her not being entirely interested in what you’ve got to offer. You don’t want to overwhelm the senses, you want to intrigue them and have her wanting to be closer to you.
Be a Caretaker
As mentioned above, even the most independent women require a little TLC from their partners from time to time and want to be treated like ladies throughout history who were doted on and taken care of. This doesn’t mean you have to go all out on champagne and diamonds, which is good since most normal Joe’s can’t afford that kind of romance, but that cliche saying about the little things is true, and if you can make her life easier in some small way she’s going to want to thank you. Judy Cole of Men’s Fitness explains:
Even something small… like changing a moldy shower curtain or walking her dog… anything that lightens her load, will both free up her time, show that you care and make you seem a little bit like a hero.
Take out the garbage, do the dishes, have supper ready when she gets home from work, anything that shows her that you want to take care of her could be enough to get her wanting to be more hands on. What men like to prove through physical senses, women tend to crave on an emotional level. When she feels safe, wanted, and cared for she’ll be far more open to being physically intimate with you as well.
Don’t Skimp On the Foreplay
If you’re in a brand new relationship then this might not apply to you because it seems like foreplay is generally practiced the most when a romance is newly budding. However, as time goes on the secret caresses and long make out sessions tend to turn into a race to the finish. Nicole Beland of MSN Living advises:
After the first few months of sex, inch-by-inch body exploration yields to cut-to-the-chase carnality. That’s a shame, because having her body mapped puts a woman in the mood for luxurious sex.
Basically, if you want your wife or girlfriend to feel more sexual you’ve got to set the mood one step at a time. Light a few candles, be generous with the kissing and gentle touches, and you’ll find her reacting more and more.
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