Many men struggle with successfully meeting women. While there are men who don’t have any issues going up to women and initiating a conversation, being successful in the interaction means doing more than rubbing the hand print off your face after your first meeting with the supposedly gentler sex. The trick to meeting women the right way is to prepare, and there are a few things that you can do to improve your odds dramatically from the beginning.
Start Working Out
If you like the way that you look, you’ll automatically have more confidence and this is why working out is a key factor. In fact, you might even want to start working out right before you go out. As David DeAngelo puts it;
Not only will you eventually get into great physical shape, but exercise itself produces endorphins that will get you mentally pumped up for the evening.
It might be tough right at the beginning, but eventually, you will notice that you look forward to the prospect of showing off your new body, and this will show in your demeanor. You have most likely heard that women prefer confident men, and working on your body is one of those surefire ways to improve your self-esteem.
Read The Newspaper
If you have ever stood in front of a woman, dry mouthed with nothing coherent to say, you’ll probably already be aware of how daunting this situation can be, as well as how difficult it is to approach someone again soon afterwards. To prevent this from happening, you should always have something to talk about and this means reading up on current events from around the world, including celebrity gossip. If you aren’t really interested in certain topics, make sure that you have a broad base of subjects to draw from so that you can steer her away from one direction to another, more amiable one.
Don’t Be Negative
It doesn’t matter how many bad experiences you have had in the past. Don’t use them as conversation topics or the basis on which to establish a new relationship. The only thing that you are going to accomplish with negativity is convincing a woman why she shouldn’t be with you, and this isn’t something that you should help her with.
Keep The Negativity Off Your Online Profile
If you are dating in the virtual world, most of the same rules apply as if you were meeting women in a bar, so keep these in mind. First, don’t outline your top 100 turnoffs on your online profile, since this is only going to demonstrate that you have issues with the opposite sex. Meredith Bodgas explains;
No one wants to date a guy who’s too judgmental.
Sometimes, people fall in love with those who are the exact opposite of who they thought they were going to end up with, so closing yourself off to the endless possibilities could end up causing you to lose out on a great thing.
Treat Her Like a Lady
Treat all the women you meet like a lady, even those that aren’t going to give you anything in return. This sort of behavior becomes instilled in a person, and by the time you meet that special someone, you’ll be ready to unleash your gentlemanly skills on her.
Janet Ong Zimmerman defines some of the behaviors expected of gentlemen;
Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word by following through with what you say. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions.
These types of behaviors show that you have respect for the opposite sex, and that is very appealing to many women. If you are dating for your own selfish purposes, expect women to retaliate. If you are dating because you are looking for someone that you can connect with, and doing so in a responsible, courteous manner, you can expect that someone special to take notice. Of course, you’ll always come across those women who don’t appreciate your good manner, but you shouldn’t let this stop you.
Always be honest about what you are looking for in a relationship. If you don’t expect to see someone after a date, tell them so. Creating false hopes could end up hurting the other person, and if this isn’t the way you want to be treated, don’t do it to someone else.
Touch Her Often
Drawing the line between establishing a physical connection and being plain creepy is delicate work, but it can be done, and needs to be done in many instances if men want to be successful in their pursuit of women. Nick Savoy explains;
Touch her (appropriately – hands, shoulders, etc.) as soon as you meet her and slowly escalate the duration and intensity of each touch. Give her time to get comfortable with your touch – if she’s not comfortable holding your hand, she’s definitely not going to be comfortable being sexual with you.
By establishing this touch, it is much easier to determine whether or not someone is actually interested in you as more than just a friend, and it also helps to intensify any romantic connections that might be there in the first place. It is important to recognize when a woman is uncomfortable with this, however, because it allows you the chance to back off until such time that she becomes more comfortable with you. Remember, this sort of bodily conversation should always be respectful, otherwise it is going to do far more damage to your cause than good.
Improving your odds with women isn’t always easy. In fact, sometimes it can be downright challenging trying to figure out what you might be doing wrong, but by establishing some ground rules to follow, you can make the process of meeting someone special a pleasurable one. Keep in mind that these are only some basics; you’ll need to continue working on your skills in order to utilize them effectively in the battlefield of love.