Men don’t understand women and there is very little they can do about it. It seems that the saying is true that men and women are two completely different species, from completely different planets. However, men and 
women both seek companionship and love, and they seem to be attracted to each other, gravitating towards one another. As women have become more empowered to make their own choices with the rise of wave upon wave of feminism, they have set their standards increasingly higher and men seem to struggle even more to be able to find their partner. However, if you follow these five essential dating tips, you may just be in with a good chance.
1 – Never Be a Fake
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Women are some of the best amateur psychologists out there. When they meet a man, they look at whether or not they are able to make an emotional investment into that person. They will look for all the signs that they can truly trust you. You, as a man, need to do everything you can to earn that trust, and putting on a persona will have the opposite effect. Women can see straight through that and will not be impressed with your efforts at all. So Suave explains
Acting like a phony with an obviously fake ‘come-on’ personality only demonstrates how easily you are willing to embrace deception in order to get something you want.
2 – Be Honest with Yourself
Another thing women are good at is knowing exactly what they want. You need to take a leaf out of their book and know exactly what you want. Too often, men are driven by lust, rather than by a desire to settle down. This means that they attach themselves to the wrong woman, with whom a future would be impossible. EHarmony, one of the world’s most respected and successful dating websites, explains
If you’re a sports junkie who has season tickets to the Celtics, do you want a woman who hates basketball and wants you home every night? Too many times men end up with women who don’t like the life they cherish.
Finding a compatible mate is as much your responsibility as it is hers. Try to look at it from the perspective that you may just build a life-long commitment on that date. That doesn’t mean you have to propose on the first night, but think about whether that person truly is someone you could spend each and every day with.
3 – Don’t Give up Your Power
Men across the world think that they will get the girl of their dreams by just giving in to her every whim. This is not an attractive feature and women will see you as an insecure person with no opinions or mind of their own. Women want to be able to see that you are independent and comfortable in your own skin. They worry that a man is looking for a surrogate mother in them. According to DFTM
Women don’t respect pushovers and they don’t feel attraction for “nice” guys who always kiss up to them.
However, you do need to find the right balance in this. Women are also highly independent and the last thing they want is a control freak. You have to realize that you will always be two separate people, even if you do end up sharing your life. This means you have to allow her to be her own person too.
4 – Have Manners
Women appreciate manners and politeness. They love it if you open doors for them and pull up their chairs. They also need to know, deep down inside, that you are not only doing this for the first date, but that you will always be classy and charming towards her. It also means that she needs to know that you will continue to behave in a classy manner if you are under great stress. She doesn’t want a man that has the potential to throw a tantrum worthy of a two year old. As explained in Practical Happiness
Being strong and knowing how to handle challenging situations doesn’t mean you have to act like a robot or not have feelings. But it does mean that you are able to make the most out of difficult situations, and you don’t let those situations drag you down emotionally.
5 – Be Passionate
Women want men who have a goal, or better still, a dream. They want someone who is passionate about their life and what they can achieved. It is best explained by Ask April:
Don’t wander aimlessly through life with no direction in mind. Get focused on something, anything, and move toward it. Find your passion – women are passionate about passionate men.
Don’t confuse this with passion in the bedroom, however. Indeed, passion in the bedroom is very important, but that should not be your goal. For men, unfortunately, ending up in the bedroom is the ultimate goal. They feel making love is an expression of love. Women, unfortunately, don’t see it that way. They need to know you are happy to be with them, rather than being with them in a physical sense. Naturally, once they move on to the bedroom, they expect you to be a passionate yet gentle lover, but if they at any time suspect that your goal is simply to end up in bed, they will run in the opposite direction faster than you can say “I’m sorry”.
Women aren’t the complicated creatures popular culture makes them out to be. However, they operate on a different wavelength than men, having completely different needs and desires and expressing themselves in completely different ways. As a man, all you can really do is be confident and self-assured, without appearing arrogant. You have to polite, respectful and a true gentleman, without making her feel like she’s incapable of handling herself. Being with a woman is all about finding that right balance between what she really wants and what you can really give her.
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