I have a slightly clinical way of looking at the whole dating game. I’m not sure that there is just one person out there who is your soul mate. If there is only one there are a whole series of questions that are raised not least of which is: how do you ever know you’ve found her?
I do think, however, that there are a number of people who occupy a space that potentially makes them highly compatible as life partners for you. This could be any number of people: it’s just a matter of tracking them down. And this is where internet dating comes in. Anything that increases your chances of meeting these compatible people has to be good.
The thing about internet dating, however, is that there is a right way and wrong way of doing it. Few people are experts. Most people need a bit of advice: and here are some of the best advice around.
I know you are probably thinking: that’s obvious. It most certainly is obvious but you’d be amazed at how many men ignore it. Clearly you want to accentuate all your positives without exaggerating your attributes. It may be called internet dating, but remember that the dating part takes place in the real world. As Amanda Chatel correctly points out, your lies will have to be explained,
Starting off a potential chance for love with lies, is never a wise idea. If you want to lie about your height to someone you never plan to meet… go for it. But if you say you’re 6’1″, then show up to a date and you’re actually 5’7″.
Put a Decent Photograph on Your Profile
Your prospective partner wants to see what you look like. Some people may not like what they see, but that is the way life is. Things have been ever thus. If you are thinking of using someone else’s photograph or one of yours from fifteen years ago we are back to the issue of honesty again.
Just on the topic of photographs, we may be living through the age of the selfie but as far as your profile is concerned get a friend to take one for you.
Take Time To Go Over Your Profile
There are different schools of thought on this. I’m very clear. You have to get the right balance. On the one hand you want to give enough information that sets you apart from the rest and makes a prospective date want to find out more. On the other hand you don’t want to provide so much information that there is little left to reveal about you to anyone who has managed to read through to the end. The Pick Up Artist Database puts it well,
As tempting as it might be, it would be vital not to say, share or release too much information on a dating website, though. After all, most women won’t be interesting in reading too much when trying to meet a man online.
Get Your First Message Right
This may take a bit of practice; however, there are a few tips that will at least point you in the right direction. Keep in mind two things. First, you’re trying to make yourself stand out from the crowd. Second, there are usually more men than women on internet dating sites.
It’s a bit competitive out there. If your first message is along the lines of “Hey babe wanna chat?” You’ll probably get no reply or a reply along the lines of “No”, or if you’re lucky “no thank you”.
Again, it’s all about balance. If you send a message that is only marginally shorter than War and Peace and not as interesting it’s not going to be read. You need to be different, interesting and patient. Don’t feel too down if your well-crafted message is ignored. Success will come.