There’s no getting around the fact that men love systems, which is why the PUA and dating advice industry has thrived on products that are based around formulaic systems. While such products are a dime a dozen, only a few of them are ever actually worth the money, which is why it isn’t hard to be skeptical about the next greatest dating advice video to come out. [wplapdance name=”desire”]
Now, it seems that I have been faced with the responsibility of reviewing The Desire System by Dr. David Tien, which just so happens to be today’s latest and greatest, or so it claims. Naturally, I’m skeptical, however, I’m going to give it a shot considering what I’ve been hearing about it from people I know to be experts in the PUA industry.
What is The Desire System?
The Desire System was created by Dr. David Tien who is widely considered to be Asia’s top dating coach and is the founder of Aura, the world’s largest dating university. Buying The Desire System gives you access to four HD video seminars with Dr. Tien himself as a host.
The core system gives you all the essentials for you to use the next time you go out so you can attract girls and sleep with them in the same night. But there are also bonuses in the form of advanced classes as well that allow you to tailor your approach to different kinds of girls. For example, there’s Lust, which teaches you how to approach sexual girls. Then there’s the Endless Conversation Course that you can use on women who prefer to converse a lot on dates. One that should be of special interest to some of you is the Friends into Lovers course in case you are interested in a friend.
How Does It Work?
Essentially, The Desire System is a home-based program that includes many of the lessons that are taught at Aura. It focuses on a concept called “emotional contagion” that allows you to transfer your emotions to the woman you are interested in, making her more empathetic to you. Why? So that if you do indeed feel attracted to her, she can pick up on that and feel compelled to feel the same way about you.
And the great thing about The Desire System is that it isn’t overly complicated. It’s more of a simple habit that fits into everything else you would normally do. It’s also a pretty straightforward step-by-step system that’s easy to follow.
It also doesn’t focus exclusively on the sex and seduction aspect of dating, but on cultivating a relationship as well. Actually, it gives you access to a number of approaches through the bonus courses depending on the type of woman you are seeing. Whether you’re seeing a sexual woman or one who you are more interested in for a relationship, there’s a bonus course you can choose from.
What I Like About the Desire System
The Desire System is unique in that it doesn’t rely as much on social cues and responses as a lot of other PUA products tend to. Instead, it emphasizes being emotionally honest and vulnerable. Honest vulnerability is easier than faking confidence and this should certainly be easier for men who don’t have as much self-esteem since taking a confident approach won’t be a realistic option for them until they’ve had significant experience with trial and error.
The core system lays the groundwork for understanding how being emotionally honest can be powerful in itself, that way, people who use the program don’t have to fake confidence because they will have it for real. But what increases your success rate when it comes to dating women are the bonuses. You can tailor your approach depending on the woman you are seeing, whether she is simply looking for something casual or someone you would be interested in more for the long term. This is key because it recognizes that the same approach won’t always work on different women, something that some PUA products surprisingly ignore.
What I Don’t Like About The Desire System
If there’s anything I can’t say I like about the Desire System, it’s that the courses aren’t modular. Yes, the courses can stand on their own if you’re more interested in improving one or more aspects of your dating skills.
However more often than not, you’re going to have to finish the entire video for each course because it’s presented as one big concept rather than compartmentalized ideas that allow you to just skip to specific parts of the video if there’s something you want to focus on.
The language can also be quite lewd and offensive at times. This isn’t anything new to the PUA industry and the kind of dating products you can usually get, but the Desire System is more intellectual than other programs and is something that even beginners can pick up on. Such language can easily turn off more modest guys who aren’t as into the aspect of getting laid as much as actually trying to develop a relationship with a girl.
Unlike other PUA dating systems in the market, the Desire System doesn’t require a certain amount of confidence to be able to apply whatever you learn effectively. Therefore, men who have bought into the program don’t have to fake confidence on their first few tries, something that almost always ends in failure since women can smell fake confidence from a mile away. Instead, men can take advantage of something that should come more naturally. This makes it easier to recommend the program to beginners, as well as men with more experience who want to add new wrinkles to their dating game.
Access to the Desire System is only $67 a month and you get access to the core system and bonus courses. There’s also a 14-day trial of The Way of the Rake, which is an 8 month course from Aura. Not a bad value for a system that doesn’t try to replicate what’s been done over and over again on other PUA products.