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From Break-up To Online Dating: Success Tips For The Digital Age

You’ve decided to bring yourself into this century and start looking for love where you’re guaranteed to find it: on the Internet.

A new survey has revealed what men should be saying in their online profiles, if they want to attract the attention of lady luck that is, and some of the feedback has been quite surprising.

According to the results, mentioning a past relationship or divorce can increase a man’s chances of a woman making contact with him by over 50%. So what do women want to see in an online profile and how do they want to be treated online?

Your Profile Picture

A good picture counts for a lot, and women prefer to see men in their natural environments, out of doors. The survey revealed that 19% more messages could be expected when the profile pic was snapped outside. Selfies were not popular either, with an expert from the Telegraph commenting,

Look welcoming – I haven’t found it matters so much whether it’s inside or outside – and that’s hard to do when you’re taking a picture of yourself. People are so used to seeing professional, airbrushed photos in the media so a selfie will almost always look really amateurish and like you don’t care.

In short, they make you appear vain. The same goes for shirtless pics: if a woman thinks she might have to fight you over the bathroom mirror every morning, she’s probably not going to go further than your profile and collection. Oh- and make sure you only use pictures of yourself; you might not look like a magazine model but if you want to get past the flirtatious stage, you have to be honest. If you don’t have anything on hand and don’t want to use anything too posed, look for a picture from Facebook that a friend might have taken.

Your Profile Name

So this is where things get interesting. You don’t want something boring like Bob or Michael1459 but by the same token, anything with randy or 69 probably isn’t going to have the ladies knocking the door down.

Making First Contact

Once you have got through the admin work of setting your own profile up and browsing those of potential dates, you need to make contact.

A relationship specialist writing for GQ says,

Be brief- two paragraphs, tops. And be the right kind of funny. ‘We’ve found that subtle self-deprecation works great,’ says Langston, ‘and that a joke works out terribly.’ Mention a common interest from her profile-we both like skiing!-but save the anecdotes for your first date.

Don’t play hard to get, or wait too long to skip the small talk stage and suggest a meet-up. Relationship experts also warn against complimenting her looks or body first up, it might sound shallow and as though you have an ulterior motive. Also, remember that the more you talk about before you meet, the less there will be to make conversation around when you finally meet in person.

It’s Ok To Have An Exit Strategy

Like anything in life, it is a good idea to begin something thinking about how it could end. And, if you start getting messages or winks from someone you just know you won’t be compatible with, just delete them.

If you do get to the date and you’re concerned it could turn into a boring evening, just ask for a quick meet-up for a drink after work. That way you don’t have to sit through an entire dinner in desperation. If you do find yourself booked for a “date” you can still do the emergency call or break the date politely without hurting any feelings.