There are plenty of self-help and guide books out there for meeting women that can walk you through a number of scenarios and tell you how to act or what to do, but in the end there are really just five simple categories you need to be knowledgeable in to be successful in meeting women. Something to remember as you read through this article and discover the different ways to meet women is that every woman is different, and that means that her preferences may not always fall into one particular category. For this reason, these tips aren’t fool proof, but if you keep an open mind and are ready to alter your route at a moment’s notice and try something new, you’ve always got a chance to succeed.
How To Dress
The first thing you want to consider before you head out on a mission to meet women is the way that you’re dressed. How you look says a lot about who you are and what you want out of life and out of a relationship. It also lets a woman know how serious you are as a person and how she’ll be treated in the long run. If you don’t take care of yourself it doesn’t exactly send the message that you’re going to take good care of her. You also want to look nice because making a good first impression makes a big difference in a date. Askmen.com explains:
Just like women have the camouflaging capability to make themselves look prettier than they really are through the use of make-up, men can do the same through their style of dress.
Take the time to color coordinate and wear something that suits the environment you’ll be in. If you’re heading out to a house party, dress relaxed, but not too casually; you want to give the impression that you’re comfortable in the environment, but not that you’re too lazy to button up a shirt rather than pulling on an old t-shirt.
Where To Go
The next priority on your list of what to do to meet women is choosing the place where you’ll go to find the girl of your dreams. Keep in mind that the cliche spots aren’t always the most reliable, and don’t always give the results that you’re looking for. So many men turn to night clubs as a place to mingle, and it makes sense considering that the women there tend to be less inhibited as well as less clothed. The problem is that the girl you’re meeting there isn’t necessarily going to be the same girl in the morning once she’s sober. It also leads to the uncertainty of taking advantage of somebody who’s not in her right mind. Kyle Western of Men’s Health Magazine advises:
The reality is that less than 6 percent of women report having had sex with their partners within 2 days or less of meeting them, and less than 20 percent of adults say they first met their most recent sexual partner in a bar.
Try places you wouldn’t normally look but open you up to social interaction in an organic and friendly way. Book clubs, running groups, fitness centers, and public locations like the library all make for great areas to find like-minded people who are more likely to be themselves than in a place where alcohol is present.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Don’t just plan on paving your route for success through conversation and smooth pick-up lines, you’ve got to show who you are in your actions as well. You know that body language can say a lot about you, but you’ll be surprised to find out just how much it can tell a woman. Think about the way that you’re sitting, standing, moving, or even positioning your hands. Clark Cassidy of So Suave writes:
Shy guys have a tendency of “shielding” themselves from other people by sitting forward with their arms folded. Don’t do this as it makes you look closed off. Relax!
One of the most important things to do in any setting is to smile; nobody wants to approach a man who looks like he’s in a bad mood, or you might bring their mood down. You don’t need to stand there with a smile that is faked or forced, but expressing a level of contentment can make you seem easy to talk to, relaxed, and friendly, which is something almost all women will be looking for.
Believe it or not, the way that you smell can play a large role in whether or not a woman will be attracted to you. This falls under many categories including your own natural body odor. This doesn’t mean that you should head out sans deodorant after a sweaty workout at the gym, but you don’t always need to cover up your natural scent with a gallon of cologne either. Something as simple as the detergent that you wash your laundry with can make a woman feel more comfortable and relaxed with you. Laurie Dove of How Stuff Works says:
Women are surprisingly aroused by scents like citrus, baby powder and Good & Plenty candies on a man.
Different women will prefer different scents, but if you’re looking to attract somebody feminine it’s best to let your masculinity shine through in your natural pheromones and just a little soapy cleanness.
Make The Date
Finally, don’t be afraid to get out there and make the date. Once you’ve got a woman’s attention don’t waste it by playing hard to get or trying to act cool. Let her know you’re interested by swapping numbers, making plans or expressing your intentions without coming on too strong. You don’t want to scare away a potential date by staring at her, breathing down her neck, or following her around a party all night trying to close the deal, but if you’re sitting on a couch having a nice conversation with somebody don’t get nervous about asking for her contact information. Even if you just add each other to some sort of social media platform from your mobile phone before you leave, that’s a step in the right direction.